taricalmcacil: (Enemy Birds)
Posting this here, because unfortunately some of the people in question know my tumblr. Hopefully I still have some friends that read DW/LJ and can help me.

Okay, so basically for a long time I've identified as an Aromantic Asexual. Which, generally, no big deal, I'm cool with it, happy, whatever.

But it fucking pisses me off when I make it clear to new guy friends because I've totally been accused of being a friendzoning bitch (And yes, I only do this with guys, because girls seem to be a lot better with this concept, for some reason. Maybe it's because girls constantly receive unwanted attention) that

a) I have no romantic interest in them
b) I have no sexual interest in them
c) If they can't handle being just friends for eternity, to leave now and I won't be mad at them

And then a year later it's "I think I have a crush on you" and they're always trying to cuddle or hug me or kiss me.

YEAH? SO? WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO ABOUT IT?

Like, I feel like I can no longer trust THEM at all. I told them I have no interest in anything but friendship. I don't want their love. I don't want to be hugged or kissed or cuddled. It is not something I need to get used to. It is not because my parent's didn't hug me enough as a child. They hugged me plenty, I can assure you. I AM NOT LIKE THEM.

BUT NOW THEY BETRAY MY TRUST BY LAYING ALL THEIR FEELINGS AT MY FEET, AND I'M PISSED. BECAUSE I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT WHO I AM. FOR HAVING TO PUT SOMEONE DOWN WHOM I TOLD I AM AN AROMANTIC ASEXUAL. BUT DO THEY FEEL GUILTY ABOUT MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE? MY GUESS IS NO BECAUSE THEY HAVE "NO REGRETS."

God, what am I supposed to do with this? Someone, please advice.

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